Or you could try water skiing for the first time or attending a cooking class together.The second way to reignite the passion is to add some mystery or surprise back into your relationship.We all grew up hearing fairy tales about a handsome young prince marrying his beautiful princess and living happily ever after.But the fairy tale didn’t warn us that one day, when the relationship was no longer new and different, our magical romance would suddenly appear familiar and routine.While time and getting to know your partner is comforting and increases the love of support, intimacy, and friendship), this can also lead you to think that you're headed toward a sexless, boring, or incredibly dull love life.So what does the future hold for you and your relationship? Sit down and ask yourself the questions below to see whether you’re in a relationship that is worth saving and whether you can reignite the passion.
” Once novelty and mystery wear off and the everyday activities of living together settle in, the excitement and sexual desire are bound to fade.The elements of passion, romance, and sexual desire are still essential to any long-term relationship.My long-term study of couples finds that you can rekindle the passion and sexual desire by adding three behaviors back into the relationship: newness, mystery, and arousal—the same behaviors that created the passion in the first place.And yes, all of what you're thinking regarding role playing and lingerie counts.But my research also finds that activities, which reduce boredom and predictability, such as spontaneously going out to play miniature golf at midnight or surprising him with tickets to a basketball game, can lead to sparks.It allows you to have completely different expectations of yourself, your relationship, and your partner. ” you’ll be able to calmly say, “Hey, my relationship isn’t in trouble after all! This is totally typical.” You might even decide to work harder on your relationship and give it another try.(Here's more advice on how to know if your relationship doubts are normal or not.)Even if you reset your expectations, that doesn’t mean that your relationship should only be about friendship.The third strategy is to seek arousal-producing activities.Studies show that if you do an activity together that creates an endorphin and adrenaline rush, this state of heightened arousal can actually get transferred to your partner and relationship.Most couples fail to maintain the urgent longing for each other that originally led them to be together. At the beginning of a relationship, passionate love is high because everything is new and stimulating.You are learning interesting and exciting information about your partner every day, which fuels the passion.