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These are just a few reasons as to why your adult children might be resisting the idea of you dating again.
Once you have put your finger on why your children have qualms about your future dating plans, you need to explain your decision to them.
Most of us have this idea of life where you spend the first fifteen to twenty years of your kids’ lives taking care of them, after which you take back control of your own life. As all of this is happening, many people cease to be in relationships that gave birth to these kids and they tend to put dating on hold until the kids are grown-ups in their own right.Building on this, they might actually see your desire to date as a betrayal of your “original (in their minds)” partner. Perhaps your previous spouse did not treat you well.Perhaps you were extremely heartbroken when they left you or when they passed on.[image: via Lotus Carroll on flickr] Ready for conscious, like-minded individuals you really want to meet?Register with Meet Mindful for free today—the fastest growing dating site for conscious singles.Of course, this fifteen to twenty years period can vary, but for the most part, it goes like this – first you make sure they survive. Before you know it, you have adult children and you want to start dating again. After that, they should be self-sufficient adults with enough knowledge about the world to survive without you.I have completely fallen for a guy or two simply by watching him with his kids and the undying love and support he has provided them. Men with kids will understand your schedule, lifestyle, priorities and responsibilities—because they will have a similar life experience.So, whether you are flying solo like me and acquire a beautiful built-in family or you are a single Mom yourself and create your very own Brady Bunch, you are gaining a experience by dating a divorced man who brings a lot to your table.For one, children grow up with the fact you and your husband/wife are a unit, this ultimate team that makes their life complete and happy.Seeing you alone (for any reason) complicates things. On a very deep emotional level, this can be difficult to overcome. Another reason why children can be against you dating is that they actually want to protect you.