When a person (male or female) realizes that only they themselves can be responsible for their emotions, actions, and reactions…they break the chain of seeking a sense of OK-ness externally.Your mission is to remember what makes you feel happy… Your mission is to think the thoughts that feel happy, do the things that make you feel happy, look at life in the way that makes you feel happy.MORE: 11 Ways to Find True Happiness This is a lesson that love and life tries to teach everyone…It might give you some sense of satisfaction to know that he’s still pining away, but where will that get you?And would that really help you move on in a healthy way? Instead of focusing on how he’s feeling, and why he’s (seemingly) moving on so quickly, focus on yourself and on what you need to do to get to a healthy, stable place, one that will open the gates that lead to a long-lasting, loving relationship. When you’re in that position, it can feel like he almost owes you a period of grief. Your thoughts, your beliefs, and your perceptions about what he’s doing are The fact is: You don’t know what he’s feeling. MORE: The Main Difference Between Men and Women in Relationships Men typically don’t feel the need to ruminate over every detail of the relationship, something I see a lot of women doing, because those thoughts serve no purpose.It can feel like he’s disrespecting the time you had together because he’s not miserable, depressed, and holed up hidden away from the world. Guys do not handle negative emotions well and will fight very hard to stay in a place of contentedness.
and he’s just trying to distract himself from the pain because he really, truly does not know any other way to dull the piercing pain he feels in his heart right now? How do you know that he doesn’t feel completely wretched about himself right now? The only thing you can know is your feelings at this moment.I am still going through the phases of our breakup and I can’t even fathom the idea of meeting and talking to a new guy right now. here you are feeling all this pain, heartbreak and sadness…It may seem the norm that guys will do this to avoid their feelings–get sex, boost ego–but it hurts. and he’s off putting up an ad for a new woman and, perhaps by extension, new sex. are your thoughts, beliefs, and perceptions about the situation. All you know is that right now, you’re hurting and you feel it’s his fault for making you hurt like this. It may not seem like it on the surface, but that’s because men process emotions differently than women…not because they don’t have any emotions.In the same regard, when a relationship ends, it is much much harder for a guy to go back and discuss and revisit and talk through and explain, etc. MORE: 5 Hidden Signs Your Ex Still Loves You (Even If He Says He Doesn’t) In fact, guys like to keep their emotional spectrum focused on a tight range of emotions – somewhere between amusement and contentedness.So any interaction that a guy knows will bring him out of that sweet range of emotions is an interaction he’s going to do everything he can to avoid.That is to say, he seeks his feeling of validation and worth from how a woman treats him.It’s not uncommon for people, men or women, to derive their sense of well-being, self-worth, and self-esteem from how other people treat them.Thinking like this will only lead you to a bad place…a place of deep suffering.” Whether you realize it or not, you have a mission right now in your love life.How do you know that, as he’s looking for other women, that his mind and heart won’t scream, “You’ll never find another woman better than the one you had… The truth is, the way you’re looking at it right now is causing you to feel bad.Believe it or not, when you’re thinking about something in a way that feels bad, that’s your mind telling you: “This is wrong! This isn’t the truth in the grand scheme of things!