“Negro if you mention Sola to me one more time I will slap you back into Umuahia!
We tend to avoid the consequences associated with the choice we make which equals inexplicable friction, and stress.
I’ve been in China for about 5 years and have dated (and am dating!
Ok, I am confused…I thought guys were totally into the text versus actually talking on the phone.Every African man of African parents no matter how many years he has spent abroad still carries that African man ego & mentality; this heavily influences the dynamics of his intimate relationships. They are getting on quite well till one day Asake discovers she once dated one of his acquaintances. My point is, don’t claim to be what you’re not, because you see an attractive package. Because you got a visa to live in America doesn’t make you American. I use the word “traditional” because then it can cover men of all races and tribes. You can’t have a woman who earns more than you” I thought it was just me but I realised even female friends and acquaintances have had similar experiences with Nigerian men from all walks of life. Many men often BELIEVE they are less traditional than they actually are.Speaking for myself, there have been times when I’ve bailed on responding to a text simply because I’m busy with something else.I think all guys would generally agree: we tend to be single-minded in what we’re doing and focus on meeting one objective at a time. 5) If I’m with another girl (note: If I’m in a relationship it’s monogamous, I never cheat, but if not dating around is fair game.) In your situation, it sounds like this guy will try to make plans and then when it gets complicated, or it seems like it isn’t going to happen, he directs his attention elsewhere and doesn’t feel the need to text further (again it comes down to the concept of a man’s tendency to single-mindedly fixate on fulfilling an objective or reaching a goal).Anything outside of our focus at that moment is a distraction that we don’t want to “deal with”. Now you mentioned that you’ve expressed your frustration over his behavior and he hasn’t changed. ’) you might think you’re drawing a line in the sand, but he sees it as something else entirely: NEEDINESS. A few clarifying points: I know the term “neediness” gets thrown around a lot these days, so I want to be really specific in how I define it. It finds a way to telegraph itself no matter how much the person tries not to “act needy”.The times in my life that I would go MIA on a text message would be: 1) If I wasn’t that into her. The reason for that is simple – when you call a guy out on something (‘why didn’t you call? So when I talk about neediness or acting needy, I’m not recommending that you change how you behave or even try to avoid these actions. A much more empowering mindset is to simply not settle for what you don’t want and seek out what you do want… Also, I want to be clear that good, clear communication of what you want and what you don’t want is part of any good and healthy relationship.The truth is that to the average Nigerian man the concept of marriage is twisted. It plays out like this, “if you are a good girl and you impress me I will marry you. I will just wait for you to get older and taunt you about it” They are like a child with a toy and Funmi Iyanda tried to take it away from them. Hence the vitriol in her Twitter mentions after her tweets.