Groups play a big role in relaying information about who likes whom.
Even if your son is mooning over a certain girl, most 12-year-olds aren’t really ready for the one-on-one interaction of a true relationship.
Some of these girls don’t care, while others desperately want to belong.
But there is hope: “By eighth grade, in a certain sense, girls are done being mean to each other.
“By the time your daughter is 10 or 11, it’s time to open a conversation about sex and boys, but I recommend parents back off from too much boy talk.
Cliques get clique-ier, the need to be in power intensifies, and girls can get meaner — and much of this behavior stems from the intense desire to belong, the need to feel powerful, and the conditioning that many girls have to not express their feelings directly.
Some girls function as leaders, others as followers, and the rest live outside the groups.
“Parents get frustrated because they don’t get to hear their daughters talk the way they did when they were in elementary school,” notes Michael Thompson.
“But we need to find ways to connect with our children other than being part of their social lives.” The media set the tone for middle school.