Instead, says my software-selling buddy, "steal the guy's attention yourself and strike up a conversation.
When he finds out you're a nice guy, he won't want to disrespect you." If he does, that's where a martial-arts background really comes in handy.
If your intended is as great-looking as you think she is, she'll still have plenty of opportunities to date other men--rich men, actually, with silvery hair and tight little convertibles. Because men tend to associate female beauty with sex, we often mistakenly assume that a beautiful girlfriend is a sex object waiting to be bought by a higher bidder.
"Sometimes beautiful women prefer a handsome man, and sometimes they don't; sometimes they prefer a wealthy man, and sometimes they don't," observes David Deida, a lecturer on the sexes and author of Although you may not need extraordinary looks or money to attract a ravishing woman, you do need something.
The problem with an opening line is that it's just that--one sentence that seldom leads to anything. "Her: "No."Him: "Oh."Besides, most good-looking women have had more lines tossed their way than the entire Wallenda family put together.
You'll fare better by starting a real conversation.
A lot of men believe you should never let a woman know you think she's beautiful because it puts you in a "vulnerable" position. Gorgeous women know they're beautiful, and they know you know it.
If you try too hard to play it cool, they simply see you for what you are: a phony.